This post was inspired by reader Nick from Finland, who asked for an article about self-worth and self-confidence:.
12 ways to build self-confidence
Many of the things you propose make people feel better about themselves and actually help building self-confidence. However, I would be interested on reading your input in general on this topic. Truer words have never been spoken. As an aside, I know that some people make a strong distinction between self-esteem and self-confidence.
In the end, both amount to the same thing, and in the end, the actions I mention below give a boost to both self-esteem and self-confidence.
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Taking control of your self-confidence If you are low in self-confidence, is it possible to do things that will change that? Is your self-confidence in your control? While it may not seem so, if you are low in self-confidence, I strongly believe that you can do things to increase your self-confidence. It is not genetic, and you do not have to be reliant on others to increase your self-confidence.
And if you believe that you are not very competent, not very smart, not very attractive, etc. You can become someone worthy of respect, and someone who can pursue what he wants despite the naysaying of others. You can do this by taking control of your life, and taking control of your self-confidence. By taking concrete actions that improve your competence, your self-image, you can increase that self-confidence, without the help of anyone else.
Below, I outline 25 things that will help you do that. None of them is revolutionary, none of them will do it all by themselves. If they work, try others.
There have been days when I turned my mood around completely with this one little thing. Our self-image means so much to us, more than we often realize. We have a mental picture of ourselves, and it determines how confident we are in ourselves. You can change it. Use your mental Photoshopping skills, and work on your self-image. Figure out why you see yourself that way, and find a way to fix it. One of the things I learned when I started running, about two years ago, what how to replace negative thoughts see next item with positive ones.
How I can actually change my thoughts, and by doing so make great things happened. With this tiny little skill, I was able to train for and run a marathon within a year. It sounds so trite, so Norman Vincent Peale , but my goodness this works. I want to stop and go watch TV. I would imagine that a negative thought was a bug, and I would vigilantly be on the lookout for these bugs. When I caught one, I would stomp on it mentally of course and squash it. Then replace it with a positive one.
Only one mile left! Get to know yourself. When going into battle, the wisest general learns to know his enemy very, very well. Get to know yourself well. Start listening to your thoughts.
Start writing a journal about yourself, and about the thoughts you have about yourself, and analyzing why you have such negative thoughts. And then think about the good things about yourself, the things you can do well, the things you like. More than just thinking positive, you have to put it into action.
Action, actually, is the key to developing self-confidence. Once you master it, everything in your life will change for the better. An important key to self-confidence is preparation. Do your thing, and don't care if they like it. They just don't let these feelings stop them. It's a result of something It is there all the time. And when you have fun, you can do amazing things. The principle of moving forward, as though you have the confidence to move forward, eventually gives you confidence when you look back and see what you've done.
So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbour. Catch the trade winds in your sail. Inaction is not only the result, but the cause, of fear. Perhaps the action you take will be successful; perhaps different action or adjustments will have to follow. But any action is better than no action at all. All you notice is the person who doesn't. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. You're on your own. And you know what you know. But so often we compare a negative view of ourselves with an unrealistic view of other people. Learning to accept ourselves, warts and all, and being kinder to ourselves when things go wrong increases our enjoyment of life, our resilience and our wellbeing.
It also helps us accept others as they are. People who have meaning and purpose in their lives are happier, feel more in control and get more out of what they do. They also experience less stress, anxiety and depression. But where do we find meaning and purpose? It might come from doing a job that makes a difference, our religious or spiritual beliefs, or our family.
The answers vary for each of us but they all involve being connected to something bigger than ourselves. For more about the 10 keys to happier living, check out the 10 keys guidebook and take the happy habits quiz. Do things for others Caring about others is fundamental to our happiness. Action ideas Do three extra acts of kindness today. Offer to help, give away your change, pay a compliment, or make someone smile. Give them a call or offer your support.
Let them know you care. Connect with people Our relationships with other people are the most important thing for our happiness. Action ideas Make more time for the people who matter. Chat with a loved one or friend, call your parents or play with the kids. Make three extra connections today. Stop to chat in the shop, wave at a neighbour, learn the name of someone new.
Take care of your body Our body and mind are connected.