This sounds really sick but I thought I was in love with my father, and he thought he was in love with me. He thought he was in love with me. That kind of thing started happening from my early-teens into my mids. Lang and Frenzel , p. The types of love they expressed ranged from sexual and romantic to care and concern for the welfare of the children.
While establishing himself as the only family member to whom Grace could turn for affection, he consistently sexualized her need for care and support. As I was growing up, dad would buy me pornography books. They would just have men in them. I remember one time, when I was working for him, and my aunty and uncle were visiting.
They were upstairs and we were downstairs in the office, and dad was trying to touch me up in the office. And I just went off. So it did make him very angry if I rejected his advances. I can remember—I had a car—I remember, every time I walked out the door, if I was dressed up, dad would be calling me a slut. What are you going to do tonight? And that would ruin the whole night. And that happened the whole time. When Grace was in her late teens, she decided to leave home. It was as though he thought I was being naughty. Having grown up in a heavily ordered and structured environment, Grace struggled to establish a life independent of her family.
After being shut out of family life for 18 months, she eventually moved back home, and the sexual abuse continued. Throughout her childhood and adolescence, her father had dictated to her what she could do, whom she could see, and where she could go. On a more fundamental level, he had told her who she was and how she should feel. Her sense of autonomy had been persistently disrupted and undermined by her father.
She had learned that she could only find a sense of worth through parental approval, and this was contingent on her obedience and loyalty. She wanted to live independently from her family and away from the sexual abuse, but at the same time the notion of a life outside the heavily regimented environment of the family home was a frightening one.
Sometimes I think I should have just made different decisions along the way. Grace remained at home until her mids, when she became engaged. This signaled the end of her sexual abuse. She felt comfortable around her husband, but she was disturbed by the ways in which she instinctively associated sexual relations with her father. It was very difficult. They bought a house for Grace and her husband and promptly sold their farm and moved in next door, where they insisted on seeing Grace every day. This inevitably created great friction between Grace and her husband, who was determined to cut off contact with her father.
He [the husband] was saying that he hates my dad, and he just wanted us to move away. And it would have been the best thing. But the house we were living in, my parents gave us the money to pay it off. After having children, Grace and her husband eventually divorced, which was a source of great sadness for Grace. She had been told by her mother that she would eventually inherit a substantial sum of money and, on a practical level, Grace felt that this was the only way that she could secure her financial future and that of her children.
She understood that this had created an intolerable situation for her husband. My parents would be coming around for dinner or something. My husband would know what has happened [incest], saying he hates him and stuff like that. And I would be saying, well, there is this dangling carrot of money. There were six people in the family. But in the family company, there were five directors: Dad, mum and my siblings.
I was never in it. Because I was a woman or a female? This was a practical adaptation not only to the conditions of her childhood, but also to the realities of her adult years. The disruption of her education had limited her earning potential and she bore a burden of depression and distress that was, at times, disabling. The flashbacks that had affected her marriage in her 20s persisted to the time of our interview, and she reported recurrent nightmares and insomnia.
She experienced other ongoing and intrusive trauma symptoms as well, such as hypervigilance. Just little things, little touches. I went away recently and had to share a room with another woman.
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It was dark when she came in and I could hear her getting changed—and it just sent shivers up my spine because I thought it was my dad. And I had to turn the light on to check—and this was only two weeks ago. She knew that her parents could provide things for her children that she, on her own, could not. Nonetheless, this ongoing contact with her parents perpetuated the emotional dynamics whereby Grace was driven to attain the approval that seemed forever out of reach in her efforts to overcome the diminished status to which her parents had assigned her.
I still see my mum every day. Always trying to please my parents, bringing them cups of tea, that kind of thing. She suggested that acting otherwise would endanger her inheritance, but she acknowledged that she was also doing so in the pursuit of a deeply held wish for the validation and support that her parents promised, but never provided.
The media treatment of prolonged incest has emphasized sensationalized cases involving physical captivity, while neglecting or casting aspersions on victims of prolonged incest in the general community. The family home and his unquestioned authority as her father were enough to achieve his purposes. She endured over two decades of sexual abuse and she continues to suffer the consequences of it to the present day.
This ideology has been robustly critiqued by feminist theorists who have argued that it has, in effect, constructed the family as a site of masculine hegemony MacKinnon, ; Pateman, ; Thornton, Cases of prolonged incestuous abuse foreground the political antecedents of sexual abuse and the ways in which normative social arrangements enable and camouflage forms of abuse and control that, at times, can reach totalitarian proportions. Such cases breach the analytic binaries that construe child sexual abuse and rape as distinct offenses committed by distinct categories of offenders, instead highlighting the continuity between child and woman abuse Kelly, This is just one of the consequences of the social invisibility of prolonged incestuous abuse for victims and survivors.
Detection of prolonged incestuous abuse requires an acknowledgement of its possibility. It is clear that severely abused children and women rarely encounter an environment in which they feel safe and supported to disclose abuse, or where sensitive but proactive inquiries are made into the origins of troubling or disturbing behavior. Kampusch , p. Women and children subject to prolonged incest will continue to suffer unless steps are taken to address their systemic invisibility and disempowerment.
Michael Salter has a PhD in public health. His research on child sexual abuse has focused on adult accounts of organized and sadistic abuse, as well as the barriers that adult survivors experience in the health system and criminal justice system. Much of his work is concerned with gendered violence, health, and culture. Skip to main content.
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